tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-56438722366521201322024-03-08T06:03:37.180-08:00ParmandilBeauty will save the world.Parmandilhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09619275808113334098noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5643872236652120132.post-2287008657258376292018-06-08T19:58:00.001-07:002018-06-08T19:58:43.826-07:00Pressure<i>Pressure</i><br />
<i> is</i><br />
<i> one small clog</i><br />
<i> in</i><br />
<i> just</i><br />
<i> the wrong place</i><br />
<i><br /></i>
<i>Pressure</i><br />
<i> is</i><br />
<i> the unbearable</i><br />
<i> ache</i><br />
<i> the knowing</i><br />
<i> that something</i><br />
<i> must</i><br />
<i> give</i><br />
<i><br /></i>
<i>Pressure</i><br />
<i> is</i><br />
<i> the feeling</i><br />
<i> that you</i><br />
<i> must</i><br />
<i> sneeze</i><br />
<i> ah-</i><br />
<i> ah-</i><br />
<i> ah-</i><br />
<i> and never</i><br />
<i> a</i><br />
<i> choo</i><br />
<i><br /></i>
<i>Pressure</i><br />
<i> is</i><br />
<i> a full schedule</i><br />
<i> and one more thing</i><br />
<i> to do</i><br />
<i><br /></i>
<i>Pressure</i><br />
<i> is</i><br />
<i> sudden</i><br />
<i> responsibility</i><br />
<i> and no one</i><br />
<i> to teach you</i><br />
<i><br /></i>
<i>Pressure</i><br />
<i> is</i><br />
<i> perfectionism</i><br />
<i> without</i><br />
<i> prioritization</i><br />
<i><br /></i>
<i>Pressure</i><br />
<i> is</i><br />
<i> the fear</i><br />
<i> that no one</i><br />
<i> could</i><br />
<i> love</i><br />
<i> inadequate</i><br />
<i> weak</i><br />
<i> sick</i><br />
<i> incomplete</i><br />
<i> you</i><br />
<i><br /></i>
<i>Pressure</i><br />
<i> is</i><br />
<i> the whine</i><br />
<i> of a tea kettle</i><br />
<i> when you</i><br />
<i> must</i><br />
<i> take</i><br />
<i> it</i><br />
<i> off</i><br />
<i> the heat</i><br />
<i> now</i><br />
<i><br /></i>
<i>Pressure</i><br />
<i> is</i><br />
<i> how</i><br />
<i> a volcano</i><br />
<i> erupts</i><br />
<i><br /></i>
<i>Pressure</i><br />
<i> is</i><br />
<i> what</i><br />
<i> kills</i><br />
<i> an astronaut</i><br />
<i> from within</i><br />
<i> and a diver</i><br />
<i> from without</i><br />
<i><br /></i>
<i>Pressure</i><br />
<i> is</i><br />
<i> how</i><br />
<i> to cook</i><br />
<i> much</i><br />
<i> faster</i><br />
<i> than seems</i><br />
<i> quite</i><br />
<i> possible</i><br />
<i><br /></i>
<i>Pressure</i><br />
<i> is</i><br />
<i> how</i><br />
<i> coal</i><br />
<i> becomes</i><br />
<i> a diamond</i><br />
<i><br /></i>
<i>Pressure</i><br />
<i> is</i><br />
<i> how</i><br />
<i> we fill</i><br />
<i> our lungs</i><br />
<i> with air</i><br />
<i><br /></i>
<i>Pressure</i><br />
<i> is</i><br />
<i> how</i><br />
<i> we</i><br />
<i> slurp up</i><br />
<i> water</i><br />
<i><br /></i>
<i>Pressure</i><br />
<i> is</i><br />
<i> how</i><br />
<i> we swallow</i><br />
<i> our food</i><br />
<i><br /></i>
<i>Pressure</i><br />
<i> is</i><br />
<i> how</i><br />
<i> we</i><br />
<i> massage away</i><br />
<i> our worries</i><br />
<i><br /></i>
<i>Pressure</i><br />
<i> is</i><br />
<i> how</i><br />
<i> we</i><br />
<i> wrap</i><br />
<i> our loved ones</i><br />
<i> in our arms</i><br />
<i><br /></i>
<i>Pressure</i><br />
<i> is</i><br />
<i> how</i><br />
<i> tires</i><br />
<i> become</i><br />
<i> strong</i><br />
<i> and carry us</i><br />
<i> where we</i><br />
<i> need</i><br />
<i> to be</i><br />
<i><br /></i>
<i>Pressure</i><br />
<i> is</i><br />
<i> the</i><br />
<i> force</i><br />
<i> of our hopes</i><br />
<i><br /></i>
<i>Pressure</i><br />
<i> is</i><br />
<i> the gap</i><br />
<i> between</i><br />
<i> our longing</i><br />
<i> and</i><br />
<i> reality</i><br />
<i><br /></i>
<i>Too much</i><br />
<i> and</i><br />
<i> we</i><br />
<i> burst</i><br />
<i><br /></i>
<i>Too little</i><br />
<i> and</i><br />
<i> we cannot</i><br />
<i> move</i><br />
<div>
<br /></div>
Parmandilhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09619275808113334098noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5643872236652120132.post-37058502437388150152018-01-01T17:38:00.000-08:002018-01-01T17:38:30.226-08:00It Came In BeautyThe old year ended<br />
In beauty<br /><br />Pale clouds glowing in the night sky<br />
Thin yet rounded<br />
Drops of diluted watercolors from a masterful brush<br />
Brightening, not darkening, the sky<br />
<br />
The moon full and bright<br />
Sailing high above the world<br />
Shining between and sometimes through<br />
Those lightly veiling clouds<br />
<br />
Between the veils were the stars<br />
Twinkling faint and remote<br />
Piercing in their beauty<br />
<br />
A faint moonbow surrounded the moon<br />
Delicate color in the white light<br />
<br />
"Do we look at the stars<br />
Because we are human<br />
Or are we human<br />
Because we look at the stars?"<br />
<br />
When first I read <i>Stardust</i><br />
I thought it a foolish question<br />
Obviously<br />
We look at the stars<br />
Because we are human<br />
Or everyone in LA<br />
Is only half-human<br />
<br />
But now I think<br />
Perhaps that conclusion<br />
Is not so absurd after all<br />
<br />
Something shifted in me<br />
That night in the desert<br />
When first I saw the stars<br />
<br />
But it is not only Angelenos<br />
Who have forgotten<br />
How to be human<br />
<br />
The new year came in beauty<br />
But how many were looking?<br />
<br />
Something shifts in me<br />
When I see the stars<br />
A longing that has nothing to do with space<br />
And everything to do with heaven<br />
<br />
The new year came in beauty<br />
And Beauty will save the worldParmandilhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09619275808113334098noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5643872236652120132.post-54302556951144974012017-07-10T22:12:00.000-07:002017-07-10T22:12:08.018-07:00The Unused StaircaseThere is a staircase down to the train tracks<br />
Not a station -<br />
Just the tracks.<br />
It's miles from a station.<br />
<br />
There are no sidewalks<br />
and nothing on the other side of the tracks -<br />
just a fence and the freeway.<br />
<br />
Probably no one ever uses<br />
those charming metal stairs<br />
bright and quaint<br />
on a rocky hill<br />
with a lush green park at the top.<br />
<br />
If the train would stop here<br />
I would climb them and explore<br />
But the train never stops here<br />
<br />
Who was the last person to use those stairs?<br />
Who will use them next? Will anyone?<br />
Why were they built -<br />
those bright quaint stairs?<br />
<br />
Long may they endure<br />
speaking silently<br />
of imaginary adventures<br />
that shall never beParmandilhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09619275808113334098noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5643872236652120132.post-11249835496006569932016-01-29T23:54:00.000-08:002016-01-29T23:54:00.873-08:00We May Always Love<i>I may love him, I may love him, for he is a man, and I am only a beech-tree. -Phantastes</i><br />
<br />
Today I finished reading <i>Phantastes </i>by George MacDonald for the first time. Beautiful book. Read it. I had no choice but to try to write poetry after reading it; so here is my best attempt at a tribute poem. I wish I were better at poems with actual rhyme and meter; that would be more appropriate for a <i>Phantastes </i>poem; but I comfort myself with memory of Anodos' own disclaimers, that his poems are just poor shadows of what he found in Faerie.<br />
<br />
<i>We may love, we may love,</i><br />
<i>we may always love -</i><br />
<i>Only not to claim, and grasp, and own.</i><br />
<i>We may yearn, we may yearn,</i><br />
<i>we may always yearn -</i><br />
<i>Yet for their good, and their heart's home.</i><br />
<i>We may treasure them up in our heart,</i><br />
<i>And we may pray, we may pray,</i><br />
<i>we may always pray</i><br />
<i>That they may find mercy.</i><br />
<i><br /></i>
<i>Yet we may not always serve,</i><br />
<i>For our service may be a burden.</i><br />
<i>Not for us to give milk to the child of another,</i><br />
<i>When for its own mother's breast it cries.</i><br />
<i>Not for us to wait upon every desire</i><br />
<i>When our beloved does not need yet another toy.</i><br />
<i>Not for us to throw ourselves at the feet of one we love</i><br />
<i>When his own wife already stands by his side.</i><br />
<i>But we may love, we may love,</i><br />
<i>we may always love,</i><br />
<i>And be glad every time another we love finds his dear companion,</i><br />
<i>And feel sweet pleasure to see him holding his child,</i><br />
<i>And pray with tears of love for all.</i><br />
<i><br /></i>
<i>We may love, we may love,</i><br />
<i>we may always love,</i><br />
<i>And into such love no jealousy or hurt can enter,</i><br />
<i>Only compassion, and concern, and tender pain.</i><br />
<br />
<i>Offer your services where they are wanted and needed,</i><br />
<i>But love widely - love more widely than your steps can ever go.</i><br />
<i>Love the one weeping in the arms of her mother,</i><br />
<i>But hold to your bosom the weeping child who has no other.</i><br />
<i>Love those in distant corners of the world;</i><br />
<i>Love those who sit on street corners;</i><br />
<i>Love those who have died long ago;</i><br />
<i>Love those yet to be born.</i><br />
<i>Love the suffering, love the blissful,</i><br />
<i>Love the weak, love the strong,</i><br />
<i>Love those with needs you have no way to solve,</i><br />
<i>Love those you have no right to embrace.</i><br />
<i>Love those who flee from you;</i><br />
<i>Love those who spit upon you;</i><br />
<i>Love those who curse the name of your God -</i><br />
<i>Love all and serve whom you can.</i><br />
<br />
<i>You will find enough, and more than enough,</i><br />
<i>That your hand may do.</i>Parmandilhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09619275808113334098noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5643872236652120132.post-75631205054860147132014-03-25T23:40:00.001-07:002014-03-25T23:40:14.172-07:00In Honor of Destruction of the Ring Day / Annunciation<div>
On this day we celebrate an unlikely hero.</div>
<div>
Someone simple, innocuous, someone we never would have picked out as a hero.</div>
<div>
But our hero was much greater than we would have known.</div>
<div>
Our hero was chosen to rescue mankind from a dangerous plight.</div>
<div>
Following through was difficult, painful.</div>
<div>
But our hero humbly, quietly, did exactly what was required.</div>
<div>
<br /></div>
<div>
"I will take the Ring, though I do not know the way."</div>
<div>
"Behold the bondservant of the Lord! Let it be to me according to your word."</div>
<div>
<br /></div>
<div>
On this day the Shadow is defeated.</div>
<div>
On this day humankind is saved from the Enemy.</div>
<div>
On this day the stronghold of the evil one is cast down and he can no longer rule the earth.</div>
<div>
On this day heaven has come to earth, and nothing shall ever be the same.</div>
<div>
<br /></div>
<div>
<div>
"Long live the Halflings! Praise them with great praise!"</div>
<div>
"Blessed art thou among women, and blessed is the fruit of thy womb!"<br /><br /><br /><br /><i>"Sing now, ye people of the Tower of Anor,</i></div>
</div>
<div>
<i>for the Realm of Sauron is ended for ever,</i></div>
<div>
<i>and the dark tower is thrown down.</i></div>
<div>
<i><br /></i></div>
<div>
<i>"Sing and rejoice, ye people of the Tower of Guard,</i></div>
<div>
<i>for your watch hath not been in vain,</i></div>
<div>
<i>and the Black Gate is broken,</i></div>
<div>
<i>and your King hath passed through,</i></div>
<div>
<i>and he is victorious.</i></div>
<div>
<i><br /></i></div>
<div>
<i>"Sing and be glad, all ye children of the West,</i></div>
<div>
<i>for your King shall come again,</i></div>
<div>
<i>and he shall dwell among you</i></div>
<div>
<i>all the days of your life.</i></div>
<div>
<i><br /></i></div>
<div>
<i>"And the Tree that was withered shall be renewed,</i></div>
<div>
<i>and he shall plant it in the high places,</i></div>
<div>
<i>and the City shall be blessed.</i></div>
<div>
<i><br /></i></div>
<div>
<i>"Sing all ye people!"</i></div>
Parmandilhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09619275808113334098noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5643872236652120132.post-9736430397137700252013-12-07T13:44:00.000-08:002013-12-07T13:44:20.991-08:00Failures of the invisible hand<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt;">
It’s true that self-interest in
its place, used well and with the right limits, can be a force in society which
is very powerful for the advancement of the economy, for human innovation, and
for the comforts we enjoy in America today.
Such is the invisible hand doctrine and we can see that it has achieved
some pretty big victories. Everyone
looks out for themselves and everyone benefits.</div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt;">
I think it’s time we
acknowledged, though, that sometimes there are behaviors for which no one pays
a price except everyone, and others from which no one benefits except everyone.</div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt;">
That is, there are plenty of
things you could do that wouldn’t benefit you – that don’t make sense for you –
but which would benefit the world, benefit society. There are plenty of things that wouldn’t harm
you – that make perfect sense for you – but which would cause a cost to
humanity, to society. And in those
circumstances, the invisible hand malfunctions.
The invisible hand guides us powerfully toward those harms and away from
those benefits.</div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt;">
Oh, there is good in people’s
hearts, and when it’s called to our attention, sometimes behaviors that don’t
make economic or individual sense become commonplace anyway. (As long as it’s not too much trouble.) And we have in many cases made laws which
instead of promoting strict capitalism are designed to promote prosperity by,
as it were, pushing the invisible hand back in the right direction. Laws against behaviors where we find
self-interest leads to intolerable inequities.
Tax revenues into things we think help everyone and taxes on things we
think hurt everyone. Etc., etc.</div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt;">
I’ll add that in many cases,
the cure is worse than the disease.
Someone can easily make a law to fix a problem, to give the invisible
hand a shove, and discover that there are unintended consequences which are
worse than the original problem. Hence
long stories about government incompetence and the legend that it really needs
to just leave us alone.</div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt;">
But the invisible hand left
entirely alone is not a magical force for good.
Let’s not forget that. Let’s not
think that everything would be hunky-dory if the government would just let us
engage in the free market with no restrictions whatsoever. And let’s not forget that sometimes we need
to appeal to people’s consciences, to guide them against just their own
self-interest and toward the interests of the whole. Unbridled capitalism could, in a society of
good people, be a fine enough thing. In
a society where if it is legal, if capitalism will allow it to you, and if it
is in your own self-interest, then everyone will declare it to be not merely
legal but good – in that society, unbridled capitalism is death. Literally death for the poorest, for those
who cannot compete. Death for the
crippled, death for the retarded, death for the young children whose parents
cannot support them.</div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt;">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt;">
Time to stop being
abstract. Time to give one concrete
example of what the invisible hand has done to our society. Just one.
There are many others I could add, but here’s one.</div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt;">
Advertising.</div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt;">
Imagine your life without
advertisements.</div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt;">
Imagine that if you were
looking for a given product, you could learn the facts about it, but no company
would ever bombard you with emotional appeals about how much your life would be
better if you only had this thing.</div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt;">
Imagine if there were no
billboards. No pop-up ads. No spam.
No telemarketers. No public
landmarks or sports events covered in ugly endorsements. No commercials. </div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt;">
Now, I grant that marketing is
what pays for at least a large percentage of a great many other things we enjoy
in life. For Google, for TV broadcasts,
for so much more.</div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt;">
I also grant that once in a
blue moon, I’ve actually seen an advertisement for a product I genuinely wanted
and wouldn’t otherwise have known existed.
Something that, when I paid for it, I was truly glad I had.</div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt;">
But let me ask you: If you could eradicate all advertisements
from your life, what would you pay for that?</div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt;">
Consider this: Because of self-interest, because the company
wants, needs, for consumers to know about their product, it’s good for them to
distribute the information widely.
Because once in a blue moon, they’ll hit me with something I want and I’ll
pay for it, they’ll continue hitting me with hundreds of things I have no
interest in. As long as they pay less
for a given advertisement than the profit they make off the products sold, they
win.</div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt;">
What’s the key problem
here? They don’t need to pay me for my
time, for the annoyance, for the waste that they caused me. Telemarketing companies don’t need to pay for
the productivity cost, for the destructiveness in family life they cause by
calling at the wrong times, for the stress and the unpleasantness. The only financial cost they have is the cost
of using the phone lines and paying the telemarketers. They don’t pay any cost to the people they
hurt with their activity. Meanwhile,
they have financial rewards from literally everyone they benefit and likely
some people they didn’t benefit. (The
latter would be people whom the product doesn’t really help, at least not more
than whatever competition they were considering, but who were convinced by the
rhetoric, emotional appeals, etc. to buy it anyway.)</div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt;">
I’ve seen and heard a few ads I
was glad for, ads that got me to buy products that I was glad to have, products
that were worth the price. But I would
happily give those products up if by doing so I could have an ad-free life.</div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt;">
That just considers the
annoyance I face. What of the social
harm advertisements do?</div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt;">
Unrealistic expectations of female
beauty. Anorexia. Rape.
Objectivication of women.</div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt;">
Materialism. Greed.
Selfishness. Inability to delay
gratification. Addictions. Lack of discipline. Dissatisfaction. Ingratitude. </div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt;">
What if the advertising
industry had to take responsibility for the women who starved themselves to
death in part because of the things advertisers did to sell products? What price could atone for that? What price could make up for the slow poison of
the constant fostering of the belief that things will make you happy?</div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt;">
If you could eradicate all
advertisements from your life and the lives of all those you come in contact
with, what would that be worth?</div>
<br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt;">
I’m not sure what the best
solution is. I’m not sure if there is a
good solution. But I am sure that when
it comes to advertising, the invisible hand is not our friend.</div>
Parmandilhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09619275808113334098noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5643872236652120132.post-46566999032436051552013-09-16T20:07:00.003-07:002013-09-16T20:11:01.951-07:00A Rhythm of Gratitude<div class="MsoNormal">
Once upon a time, back in my college days, someone suggested
that maybe the days in Genesis 1 were symbolic, that maybe it didn’t have to
literally refer to 24-hour periods. I
objected, which might well be a reasonable thing to do (I withhold judgment),
but my reason was certainly bad: I
couldn’t see what the symbolism could possibly be in saying that, for example,
sea and sky were created on the second day.
And that was just blindness.</div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
Then, about a couple months back, just for fun, I started
thinking of the days of the week, not just in terms of their names in our
calendar, but in terms of what was made on each day. Sunday is Lightday. Monday is Seaday or Skyday or Waterday. Tuesday is Landday or Plantsday or Treesday
or Fruitday. Wednesday is – wait for it
– Sunday (I know!) or Moonday or Starsday.
Thursday is Fishday or Birdsday.
Friday is Animalday or, more often, Manday. (Humanday or Peopleday is better, but Manday
has more of a ring to it.) Saturday is
Restday. Well, almost. Since “evening and morning were the __th day,”
Manday is really Thursday evening through Friday at sunset, for example. Every time I think of the calendar name for a
day of the week, I try to pause and think of this Genesis 1 name, too. </div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
I expected it to be a vaguely fun, interesting thing to
do. But I wasn’t really expecting the
result.</div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<br />
I’m not sure I have ever in my life been more grateful for
Creation. It’s such a simple thing, but
now every time I think the name of the day, I think of something God made. And every week is a progression, first
setting the stage, then bursting forth into life, and every Restday is a day
for happy peaceful contemplation of the wonder of it all. It’s a weekly rhythm of gratitude, and I love
participating in it.</div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
As an added bonus, I thought it was kind of awesome to
suddenly realize that Christ was crucified and died (thus recreating mankind,
if you listen to Athanasius) on Manday, lay in the grave on Restday, and arose
very early in the morning, before the sun had risen, on Lightday.</div>
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Have a good week, and enjoy the wonder of Creation. Landday/Plantsday has just begun, so think of
mountains and forests and flowers and herbs and fruits and grains and
vegetables, and be thankful.</div>
Parmandilhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09619275808113334098noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5643872236652120132.post-61026302192691246292013-08-24T01:38:00.000-07:002013-08-24T01:39:47.067-07:00Dementia<div class="MsoNormal">
I’m staring through a glass window</div>
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And the person I love most in all the world is on the other
side of it</div>
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The woman who was always there for me, who loved me, who
dried my tears and held my hair back for me while I threw up</div>
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Who cleaned up my messes and drove me around and played with
me every day</div>
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Who taught me to read, to sing, to love God’s Word</div>
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Who helped me find my way in the world</div>
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Is lost in a maze just beyond it</div>
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And I can see her there, trapped, lost</div>
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Alone, bored, not knowing where she is,</div>
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Confused, afraid, dependent, helpless, upset</div>
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Getting farther and farther away</div>
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And I can talk to her but my words don’t get through</div>
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I can’t get her out of that maze</div>
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And at every turn she is farther away</div>
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Every time I look she is farther away</div>
Parmandilhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09619275808113334098noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5643872236652120132.post-86299178173128299232012-07-30T23:49:00.000-07:002012-07-30T23:54:37.853-07:00One Year in Oregon: A Retrospective<br />
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As of
Wednesday, I will have been in Oregon for one full year. This time last year, I had meant to be
starting to drive up; instead, I spent the whole day packing my brother’s and
nephew’s stuff into the moving truck, asymptotically approaching done as we got
more and more exhausted. That evening, I
slept at their place; the next day, we finished up the last bits of packing and
drove off to the first and only July rain I have ever seen in Los Angeles – its
own special good-bye, it seemed – and made it up to around Redding before
stopping at a Motel 6. The next day,
August 1<sup>st</sup>, my Oregon anniversary, we crossed the border and made it
to my apartment complex just barely too late for them to let me check in, so I
stayed at my brother and nephew’s new place for one last night before moving
in. I moved in on August 2<sup>nd</sup>.</div>
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So yesterday is
the anniversary of the day I moved all my earthly goods out of my parents’
house and <span style="text-indent: 0in;">struck out on my own, though my Oregon anniversary is only almost
here. Seems like a good time for a
retrospective.</span></div>
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So here’s some
highlights of the year, some things I’ve learned about Oregon, some changes I’ve
noticed in myself… all thrown together in one jumbled rambling
retrospective. One year down.</div>
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Hiking. I’ve sure done it a lot more now.</div>
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Oregon drivers
think inconsiderate drivers are people who give them a tiny jolt of extra
adrenaline. Los Angeles drivers
(including myself) think inconsiderate drivers are people who drive down a
one-lane road, or the fast lane of a wider road, at 5 mph under the (low) speed
limit when there’s nothing particularly interesting going on in front of them. Or exactly at the speed limit, for that
matter.</div>
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I now know
where the controls for my car’s bright headlights are.</div>
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Layers are such
useful things. </div>
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Yeah, those
stories about people who live in cold climates actually having their bodies
change to compensate? Apparently it’s
true. My temperature sense is way closer
to a normal Angeleno’s now. Of course, I’m
still not much for the cold by Oregonian standards.</div>
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Last year, I
didn’t know I was anemic. This year, I
know… and thanks to iron, I’m running faster than I ever have before.</div>
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Yogurt-based
fruit smoothies are some of the most delicious things ever. I can practically feel them nourishing me. And what do you know, eating a large quantity
of fruits and vegetables seems to really help one feel healthy. Who’d have thought?</div>
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A new
sister-in-law! Such a beautiful
wedding. Getting all 13 of us siblings
together for the first time in almost 19 years was a nice highlight too!</div>
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Last year, I
had danced only a low single-digit number of times. Now I am quite decent at English country
dancing. ^__^</div>
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Last year, I
knew all the theory, but I knew very little about how electrical engineering…
works… in practice. Now I know so much
more about that side of things. I’m a
professional RTL coder, I am.</div>
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Cleaning an
apartment where you live alone is not automatic, but it is *much* easier than
cleaning a rambling old two-story house with a basement in Los Angeles where
you grew up with a huge family. And in
either place, FlyLady is your friend.</div>
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REI is your
friend.</div>
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On an Oregon
hike, you shouldn’t wear jeans. This is
completely counterintuitive to me.</div>
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The air is
always fresh, always clean – though it might have a little pollen in the spring
and mildew in the winter, still, no smog.
Ever.</div>
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Oh, In-N-Out, I
miss you.</div>
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Flaggers are
crazy. Oregon is crazy. Seriously, I’m pretty sure our lives would be
happier up here if they rerouted traffic.
But no, it’s more fun to hire someone to stand there and BREAK
EVERYTHING.</div>
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Sure is nice,
having freeway meters where they stagger the greens so one lane gets green at a
time, instead of turning it into a game of chicken…</div>
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Balls. Dinners at Shari’s. Bible study.
Tutoring some wonderful kids and eating dinner with their wonderful
families. Camping trips – two of
them. </div>
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I’ve gone from
less than nothing (in debt to my dad) to five figures in my bank account. And stock and a 401k and health insurance all
my own, no less. While upping my
standard of living significantly, furnishing my apartment, obtaining cold
weather clothes, etc.</div>
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I can sure be
extroverted when I live alone… and I sure spend more time on Facebook that way.</div>
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Reading in the
woods is *splendid.* My apartment is
*splendid.*</div>
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Friends – It’s
so strange to realize that this time last year, I didn’t know all these
wonderful Oregonians. I have been
blessed, no question.</div>
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Dilbert is a
documentary. ;)</div>
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God is faithful…
again and again. <i>A thousand times I’ve failed; still Your mercy remains.</i></div>
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Portland is a
beautiful town, er, city. I never get
over the view on the bridge over the Willamette. And the forest around the city… there are no
words. The river, the forest, the
mountains, the elegant buildings and public art, all combine to make it
incredible.</div>
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The Gorge: the
Columbia River Gorge, a.k.a. Land O’ the Best Hikes EVAR.</div>
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Powell’s
Books. ‘Nuff said.</div>
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I never dreamed
apples could taste so good.</div>
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I know my
Oregon geography better now, though it’s certainly no match for my Los Angeles
and California geography…</div>
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I had people
call me brave. Interesting to move and
see how far you’ve come – a few years back, I don’t think anyone would have
thought me brave. I was always the girl
of a thousand crippling fears.</div>
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Adults have so
many choices. So incredibly many
choices.</div>
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Mostly I guess
I’ve learned that I can do this living on my own thing, even a thousand miles
from home, by God’s grace, and it’s scary and it’s a big change and it takes so
much work and planning, but it’s also exciting, rewarding, satisfying. </div>
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No, this doesn’t
sum up the year, not nearly… but it’s something to honor this occasion, at
least.</div>
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Here’s to many
more such years.<br /><br /><i>Five hundred twenty-five thousand six hundred minutes,</i><br /><i>How do you measure, measure a year?<br />In daylight, in moonlight, in starlight, in cups of coffee,<br />In inches, in miles, in laughter and strife?<br />In five hundred twenty-five thousand six hundred minutes,</i><br />
<i>How do you measure a year in the life?<br />How about love? </i><br />
<i>Measure in love. </i><br />
<i style="text-indent: 0in;">Seasons of love.<br /><br />-</i><span style="text-indent: 0in;">"Seasons of Love," </span><i style="text-indent: 0in;">Rent </i><span style="text-indent: 0in;">(from memory, so may not be verbatim)</span><br />
<br />(Though this is a leap year, so that should really be five hundred twenty-seven thousand, forty minutes.)</div>Parmandilhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09619275808113334098noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5643872236652120132.post-70827582096389320412012-07-02T02:32:00.001-07:002021-02-12T11:53:46.544-08:00Believe. Act. Receive by grace.<br />
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Today I heard
an almost-true sermon.</div>
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Or, well, hm,
how shall I put this? I’m not sure that
the pastor is wrong. I am sure that the
nuances I noticed him say today (and I was zoned out for just enough of his
sermon, thinking about things like these nuances, that I probably did not
notice every relevant thing he said) are things that are very scripturally
problematic. I am worried that people
believe those problematic nuances.</div>
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I wouldn’t be
surprised if when I’m done saying what I think here, a lot of other people
think that <i>this</i> has scripturally
problematic nuances. Because I am pretty
sure that there are actual disagreements here.</div>
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And by the way,
I’ve changed my mind about this since I was a small child, so I <i>really</i> wouldn’t be surprised if other
people disagree – I did.</div>
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I do also have
a pretty strong opinion here. Yes, I
think I’m right. That’s kind of the
definition of having an opinion at all...</div>
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I’m not sure I’ll
even present what the “other side” is, though.
I think I’ll simply say what it is I think. Maybe the pastor would in fact agree with
what I write here. I’m not sure. I’ll leave you to find places you disagree
and decide after reading whether you still disagree. “Picking sides” can be profitable, but it isn’t
always, and here I think it would not be.</div>
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Rest assured
that the pastor’s sermon was not totally heretical like a great many possible
disagreements from what I’m about to say would be. I’m trying to write many of the basics of the
Christian faith, but with the nuances which I believe, not the nuances I heard
in the sermon today. The disagreement is
not in the main point, but in subtleties.
“Mere Christianity” still stands as one for the vast majority of this.</div>
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Really I’m
using this sermon more as a prompt, a leaping-off point, than as a thing to
argue against.</div>
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Without further
ado:</div>
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All of God’s gifts
are gifts we receive by grace, and almost all are gifts which we must also believe and act in order to receive.</div>
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How does that
tension work?</div>
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As Dr. Reynolds
once said in a lecture (paraphrased from my memory), God sees our feeble
efforts, our faintest stirrings of reaching toward Him, and He says, “That’s
enough! Just a little righteousness! I’ll treat you as if you were as righteous as
My Son.”</div>
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Belief and good
actions do not mean that we merit God’s good gifts. They do not mean that we earned them. We did not.
We aren’t even close.</div>
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God in His
goodness multiplies our efforts so far beyond what we could ever earn.</div>
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We are given
eternal salvation, justification, the Holy Spirit living inside us, answers to
prayers, and incredible assistance in living well each day, all simply when we
believe that Jesus is Lord and begin to intend to serve Him. That belief should not make us feel smug or
righteous. All our righteousness is as
filthy rags, but he washes us and dresses us in bright robes of his own. Our feeble effort does not come close to
paying for our sin.</div>
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Yet that feeble
effort is the price God requires. He
asks for belief and, yes, for the intent to serve Him. Is that enough? Not even close, except by the work Christ did
on the cross – the most absurd extremity of grace. Can we congratulate ourselves on this
salvation? No, no, a thousand times
no! Can we even say we are better than
those who do not believe? No, no, all
have sinned, all have offended God abominably, and do you truly believe that
under no circumstances would you fail to believe in Jesus? If so, you are quite deluded.</div>
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Believe, act,
and receive by grace a life superabundantly beyond anything you could ever
earn.</div>
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Your
salvation? Believe, act, and receive by
grace what for all your efforts, you did not earn.</div>
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Knowledge of
Scripture? Believe, act, and receive by
grace what for all your efforts, you did not earn. No one can deserve the blessing of knowing
God’s words to humanity and seeing how it can aid us today. No one can deserve the promptings of the Holy
Spirit as to how God’s words to, say, King David affect how we live today. But by God’s grace, and, yes, a boatload of
study, many people do achieve a great knowledge of Scripture. They did not study enough to earn it, but God
chose to bless their study with knowledge.</div>
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A happy
marriage? Believe, act, and receive by
grace what for all your efforts, you did not earn. (And if, like me, you have no such thing, do
not curse God as if you had earned it and He withheld it.) No one can deserve to possess and be
possessed by another soul in love. But
many do receive that, by God’s grace and, yes, a boatload of hard work and
faithfulness – but not nearly enough hard work and faithfulness to earn it.</div>
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Contentment in all circumstances? Believe, act, and receive by grace what for all your efforts, you did not earn. No one can deserve the knowledge that we are God's children and He will give us what we really need. No one can deserve to be taken care of by the love of the omnipotent creator. No one can deserve the "peace that passes understanding" - yet as Paul said when talking about how he had learned to be content with little or with much, "I can do all things through Him who strengthens me" - with only a little belief and trust and the grace of God, we can receive contentment. Christ strengthens us, and our little effort is multiplied a thousandfold in its effects.</div>
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God gives sun
and rain to the righteous and the unrighteous.
If you want to produce a large crop you had better do some work… and
acknowledge that however much you work, that crop is still a gift, that only by
God’s incredible power and aid does a seed become a plant. We plant and God gives the growth.</div>
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Believe, act,
and receive by grace. All those things
belong together. They are not contradictory. We are not saved by works we do. We are not saved because our faith pleased
God so much He realized it just wouldn’t be right to withhold salvation from
such stalwart souls. Yet by God’s grace,
we are saved through faith. Have faith,
and as James says, help the widow and the orphan; do good in God’s name. Be humbled by God’s great mercy and by the
wonder of the cross. Never believe you
have earned the smallest gift, but never stop working out your salvation with
fear and trembling. It is God who works
in you.</div>
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<i>Lord Jesus Christ, have mercy on me, a
sinner. Holy Spirit, help me to do Your
will. Father in heaven, how You have
blessed me, how You love me, how gracious You are! O God, I can never thank You enough, but that
does not mean I should give up saying it.
Thank You, thank You, a thousand times thank You! For Your Son, for life itself, for sustaining
me with joy, for leading me to Oregon, for sun and rain, for evergreen trees,
for my family, for laughter, for health, for pain which leads me toward
holiness, for comfort in sorrow, for men and women who showed me what it is to
love You, for Scripture, for the Holy Spirit, for answers to prayer at my
lowest points. You are Lord. Give me the courage and the will to honor
You.<o:p></o:p></i></div>
<br />Parmandilhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09619275808113334098noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5643872236652120132.post-34372192365399658392012-06-10T17:07:00.000-07:002012-06-10T17:19:47.978-07:00Books that have changed my perspective in important ways<span style="font-family: inherit;">Books. They really do have the power to change your life. To change your perspective. To show you things you never thought of before. To insert an image that sticks with you and makes your life beautiful. Good thing, because otherwise that's a lot of time I would now be thinking of as a waste.<br /><br />There are some general ways in which reading has been good for me. Expanding my world, teaching me to compassionately understand people in very different situations and cultures, helping me to think clearly and to express myself clearly, etc., etc. I'm not going to get into all of those now. This time, I want to write a post which honors some of the books which have been most influential in my life and mentions some of the specific ways in which they changed things for me. Some of these taught me a key lesson. Some portrayed something beautiful or interesting. Some included one image or one emotion that I have never been able to forget.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;"><br />I may add to this post at other times. I could be writing this for a long, long time. But for now, without further ado, a beginning of a post to honor books that have changed my perspective in important ways, and through changing my perspective have changed my life.<br /></span><span style="font-family: inherit;"><br /></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">The Lion, the Witch, and the Wardrobe by C.S. Lewis: "Is he... safe?" "Safe? Who said anything about safe? Of course he's not safe. But he's good."</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">The Lord of the Rings by J.R.R. Tolkien: For encouragement to face the Shadow wherever it hides. "Always, after a defeat and a respite, the Shadow takes another shape and grows again." Yet it does continue to be defeated, sometimes by the unlikeliest heroes.</span><span style="font-family: inherit;"><br /><br />I Corinthians: For showing me what love means and that it truly is more important than anything else I can do. "Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil, does not rejoice in iniquity but rejoices with the truth, bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things."</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: inherit;">The Curse of Chalion by Lois Master Bujold: because when I think of loyalty I think of Cazaril's scarred back and how he came back to serve again and again. May I perform my duty and love those I serve half, nay, a tenth as well as Cazaril. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: inherit;">The Sarantine Mosaic by Guy Gavriel Kay: "It's just a _____." "No. This is a death." For teaching me how to grieve, and how to allow myself to grieve what is not a literal death. For teaching me about loving despite the fear of loss. For teaching me about the meaning of art. And for making me wish with all my might to see a mosaic in a dome, and when I got my wish years later, to know what to look for.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">The Lord of the Rings: Faramir's courage. Not to love honor and power and the good opinion of others for themselves, but for the good things they can protect. Strength of character to turn down the Ring. Strength to defy his father, the man whose good opinion he most wanted, when necessary. Strength to go into battle as the greatest of captains even though he did not truly love war when it was necessary to protect his home. Strength not to be angry at how his brother always overshadowed him.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Perelandra by C.S. Lewis: May I always remember to treasure the good I am given and not spoil it with complaints about missing the inferior good I expected.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Philippians: Because in Christ we always have reason for joy. Because God does good even in terrible circumstances. Because Christ Jesus, the one man who deserved the most, gave it up and accepted the worst of punishments for our sake, and He is our example. Because from Christ's example we can learn to give up our rights for others. Because God does give us peace when we pray about all our anxieties.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Genesis: Because it may take years to see, but God has a plan even when people mean their actions for evil. Joseph's brothers couldn't thwart Him.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">The Soldier Son Trilogy by Robin Hobb: Because of perhaps the first fully sympathetic, detailed look I ever came across at how awful it would be to be obese. Yes, sometimes something that simple, done right, can make a book great.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">The Lord of the Rings: An enemy can be won into a friend just by looking at him with understanding, as Gimli was won by Galadriel.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">A Call to Die by David Nasser: For challenging me to take my faith very seriously and showing me some of the tangible things that could mean.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">The Night Angel Trilogy by Brent Weeks: For showing that even assassins and prostitutes can be redeemed and delving deeply into exactly what it would take to do so.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Tigana by Guy Gavriel Kay: For making me reflect on times when a kind of pride is redemptive, not destructive, and what differentiates the two. And for the purest representation I have read of revenge and what it does and how it mingles with and sabotages love.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">The Lord of the Rings: For showing that sometimes the battles that hurt the most happen when we return home and see evil at work... but our struggles elsewhere will give us the strength we need to overcome it.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Anna Karenina by Leo Tolstoy: Because of how vitally important it is to do our duty and to do it passionately. Karenin lacked passion and Anna lacked any sense of duty and they both destroyed themselves and those around them. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">The Night Angel Trilogy by Brent Weeks: For showing clearly what happens when you say "No" to God in just one little thing.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Mordant's Need by Stephen R. Donaldson: Because of Geraden and Eremis, who showed me how to separate "good" from "cool." Trust someone who is good at heart, loyal, and kind, even when he is also clumsy, awkward, and seemingly no good at anything; never trust someone just because he is suave, charismatic, clever, and good with words, if it appears that he may also be manipulative, cold, and selfish. Geraden will not let you down in the end.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">The Silver Chair by C.S. Lewis: Because even if the Good were a lie it would be worth fighting for, though praise God! it is not a lie.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Matthew: "Do not worry therefore; you are of more value than many sparrows." God watches and cares for us at all times.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;"><br /><br /><br />This is a beginning. There are many more. But let this suffice for part one.</span></div>Parmandilhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09619275808113334098noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5643872236652120132.post-21659936223723702252012-03-31T21:46:00.000-07:002012-03-31T21:46:15.333-07:00I would not have dared to dream it.Today I took a look at the life I have and I realized that ten years, five years, one year ago, as I was trying to decide what I would pursue, trying to decide what I would do, where I would go, what activities I would participate in when I graduated and was finally free to choose... as I wondered, as I waited, as I agonized, as I procrastinated and put off planning out of fear, as I eagerly got an idea and pursued it...<br />
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...even one year ago, I would not have dared to dream of the life I have now. I would not have dared to dream that it could happen. That I could have so many of the desires that have followed me throughout my life. Pursuing them would have seemed rash, doomed to failure. And they dropped right in my lap.<br />
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I dreamed of a full-time job doing engineering. Starting four years ago, anyway; before that I did not know to dream even that, I only dreamed of something mathematical. Maybe some chip-design for some tolerably respected company. A little over a year ago, I learned to my chagrin that most companies hiring electrical engineers for the branch which borders on computer engineering wanted a master's degree, but I held out hope that my qualifications might yet land me a job in a relatively timely fashion without the need for that extra time in school which I was not emotionally up for right then, not after five long years. But a job for Intel? Chip design for the most respected chip maker in the world, one which supports its employees, one which really hopes that you will still be happily working for them decades later and treats you accordingly? I did not dare to dream that.<br />
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I dreamed of getting to go on a few memorable weekend hikes and/or camping trips with friends. One or two a year. Ideally in forest. But to get to go on gorgeous hikes regularly, so that going a month without is very rare? I did not dare to dream that.<br />
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I daydreamed about forest. I have always loved forest with all my heart, more than any other kind of terrain. Forest and mountains. Old wood. Clean smells. Green, green everywhere, my favorite color. Frequent rain. Awe-inspiring chasms filled with trees, trees, are what I have loved more than anything since the first time I laid eyes on King's Canyon National Park the summer before my fifth grade year. To visit these places on a yearly basis was a dream. To live with forest literally outside my window, with miles and miles of forested mountains within an hour's drive? That is beyond anything I dared to dream.<br />
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Or if I toyed with the notion, I threw it aside. For I love cities a little too much to give them up. Havens of culture. Places to meet people, to visit libraries, to listen to choirs, to go to a good-sized church. Places where I could work surrounded by others. Places with good Internet and phone service. So of course I could not live in a forest happily. I had to live in or at least very near a city. So it was hopeless. Something I never dared to dream. Until I moved here and discovered that was just what I had acquired almost by accident. Forest and mountains and city too.<br />
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A safer place, a place with friendlier, less suspicious people. I imagined it, but I did not dare to dream it.<br />
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All this, but I wanted a place with a community of friends. One person at least, one good friend, who could introduce me to their friends, and have it spread from there. And thanks to my brother Robert, his wife (then fiancee) Laura, and their awesome friends, friends who quickly began inviting me to events even when Robert wasn't going, Oregon passed that test on top of these. I had an in. And now I have a community. Varied and strong and oh-so-interesting and fun. I dreamed of this, but it turned out better than I dreamed, and anyway I did not dare to mentally claim it as a goal; all my dreams were longings I expected to go unfulfilled. I expected to live in Los Angeles among my dear friends whom I made gradually, so gradually, and, if I moved, to have trouble for at least my first half year, to continually need to call my old friends just to stay sane. I did not dare to dream this.<br />
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I dreamed of getting to tutor, to help a few people with their math. I did not pursue it as I originally intended, but about three or four weeks ago, a conversation with a boy I know turned into a thrill when he, on his own, went and grabbed pencil and paper so I could show him some math concept I was talking about, and then we spent the next good while going over miscellaneous math concepts to our mutual delight. Now I get the chance to tutor him every week, and another family of mutual friends another night every week. It is so much fun, more fun than I ever dreamed (such bright kids, so fun to watch their eyes light up! We played with legos and talked about math at the same time!), and it all fell into my lap. I did not dare to dream this - not this.<br />
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I dreamed of singing, and I am a part of Intel Singers, an employee group that meets during lunch once a week, and I sing at church as well. I wanted it, but was not properly pursuing either... but the opportunity was pressed upon me. I couldn't figure out who to contact about Intel Singers and wasn't willing to take my best guess - an advertisement appeared on the screen of rotating announcements near the elevators which told me. I was feeling shy about mentioning to the worship director that I could sing - three or four separate people told me each week that I should talk to him until I finally did.<br />
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All that is left is for an opportunity to write - and the time to manage it - to fall into my lap. Or perhaps the perfect roommate(s). Or more likely something else I would not dare even to dream.<br />
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Ah, dear Lord, I can hardly wait to see what You will do next.<br />
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Not everything is perfect, of course, and not everything is quite as fun as I dreamed. But the sum is better than the dream by far.<br />
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God is good, and what He has done for me this year has surpassed my wildest dreams.<br />
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Perhaps more hardship will come; perhaps some of these gains will prove to be transitory. Perhaps. Then again perhaps not. Either way, this past year proves to me that I am incredibly loved. That what hardships may come are for my good, to strengthen me and not to harm me.<br />
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Last April was when I got an email in my school inbox that informed me that Intel was hiring microprocessor design engineers. Last April was when I felt a sudden surge of shocked hope and my dreams began to change. Last June was when they flew me up for an interview and I felt my heart sway toward this beautiful place as I spent time with Robert and Laura and their friends. Last August was when I arrived here and began this new, crazy, wonderful stage of my life. Here I am... and I love it.Parmandilhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09619275808113334098noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5643872236652120132.post-4908627046783267332012-03-05T19:43:00.000-08:002012-03-05T19:43:39.628-08:00Press OnWhen my insecurities rise up once again, it's time to press on.<br />
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When the thought of doing something seems cripplingly terrifying even though I know in my head that it's not so bad, it's time to press on.<br />
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When I'm bored and my mind wants to wander from something valuable to something silly, from my job to miscellaneous personal thoughts, it's time to press on.<br />
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When I feel angry or hurt or embarrassed without cause, or even with cause, it's time to press on.<br />
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When I fall flat on my face, it's time to get up and press on.<br />
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When I'm lazy and waste time, it's time to get up and press on.<br />
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When I need to press on, I have friends who can encourage me, including one very special friend who tells me to take courage.<br />
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When I need to press on, I have people who I know will accept me even if I fail to break through the wall, people who will cheer my success when the wall breaks at last.<br />
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When I need to press on, I have God, who delights to give me strength and encouragement.<br />
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When I press on, I receive blessings that go far beyond the difficulty, blessings which are all the greater when it was so hard I wanted to cry as I looked ahead to what I had to do.<br />
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When I press on, I become stronger, and the next time I need to press on it is easier.<br />
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When I press on, God uses me, and others are blessed.<br />
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When I press on, I see how much I am loved.<br />
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*I do not speak of pressing on when with sober judgment you know that the battle is not worth the prize. But so often the prize is worth it, and we do not receive only because we are unwilling to strive, to persevere, to press on.Parmandilhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09619275808113334098noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5643872236652120132.post-38471008070852546262012-02-28T20:44:00.000-08:002012-02-28T20:44:15.058-08:00Faramir<i>In which I rant about the mutilation of a beloved character</i><br />
I figure most people are tired of hearing how the movie ruined Faramir long since. Within a week or so of when the movie first came out. But when I made an offhand comment about it, someone asked for the full version... and I gave it. I reproduce it here. Except in the beginning it was a lot of Facebook comments and some others were interspersed; here I only include mine, and only the ones that were more of an essay than a conversation. I do a very little minimal editing.<br />
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First, let me say I thought the movies were pretty good. They showed millions of people that Middle-Earth is beautiful. They kept some of the major themes at least. Nothing like how awesome the books are, but that's just to be expected when someone else messes with the vision of a genius like Tolkien, constrained by such a restrictive medium as movies. Lothlorien was disappointing, but Rivendell was beautiful beyond my imagination and Minas Tirith was glorious. Ah, the soundtrack! They got the atmosphere of the places mostly right. They did an amazing job of showing the hobbits feeling lost and small in the inn of Bree and Aragorn looking terribly menacing in the corner. And so much more. It's *hard* to make Ents in a movie, thus I forgive them the fact that Ent eyes are super-lame compared to Tolkien's description. It's impossible to demonstrate the effects of Saruman's voice, thus I do not resent the fact that they barely even tried. They truly didn't have enough time for Tom Bombadil. Etc., etc. </disclaimer><br />
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But.<br />
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Faramir.<br />
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Let me show you Faramir from the book. You may have forgotten him. You may never have met him. I'll let him speak for himself. This is Faramir from the book:<br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">"But this much I learned, or guessed, and I have kept it ever secret in my heart since: that Isildur took somewhat from the hand of the Unnamed, ere he went away from Gondor, never to be seen among mortal men again. ...</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">"What in truth this Thing is I cannot yet guess; but some heirloom of power and peril it must be. A fell weapon, perchance, devised by the Dark Lord. If it were a thing that gave advantage in battle, I can well believe that Boromir, the proud and fearless, often rash, ever anxious for the victory of Minas Tirith (and his own glory therein), might desire such a thing and be allured by it. Alas that ever he went on that errand! I should have been chosen by my father and the elders, but he put himself forward, as being the older and the hardier (both true), and he would not be stayed.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">"But fear no more! I would not take this thing, if it lay by the highway. Not were Minas Tirith falling in ruin and I alone could save her, so, using the weapon of the Dark Lord for her good and my glory. No, I do not wish for such triumphs, Frodo son of Drogo.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">"For myself, I would see the White Tree in flower again in the courts of the kings, and the Silver Crown return, and Minas Tirith in peace: Minas Tirith again as of old, full of light, high and fair, beautiful as a queen among other queens: not a mistress of many slaves, nay, not even a kind mistress of willing slaves. War must be, while we defend our lives against a destroyer who would devour all; but I do not love the bright sword for its sharpness, nor the arrow for its swiftness, nor the warrior for his glory. I love only that which they defend: the city of the Men of Numenor; and I would have her loved for her memory, her ancientry, her beauty, and her present wisdom. Not feared, save as men may fear the dignity of a man, old and wise."<br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">And later, a good while later, after finding Gollum and speaking more, Sam clumsily said of Boromir, "From the moment he first saw it he wanted the Enemy's Ring!" And there was much horror on the part of Frodo and Sam as they realized what he had just said.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">"Save me!" said Sam turning white...</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">"Now look here, sir!" He turned, facing up to Faramir with all the courage he could muster. "Don't you go taking advantage of my master because his servant's no better than a fool. ... Now's a chance to show your quality."</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">"So it seems," said Faramir, slowly and very softly, with a strange smile. "So that is the answer to all the riddles! The One Ring that was thought to have perished from the world. And Boromir tried to take it by force? And you escaped? And ran all the way - to me! And here in the wild I have you: two halflings, and a host of men at my call, and the Ring of Rings. A pretty stroke of fortune! A chance for Faramir, Captain of Gondor, to show his quality! Ha!" </span><span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">He stood up, very tall and stern, his gray eyes glinting.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">Frodo and Sam sprang from their stools and set themselves side by side with their backs to the wall, fumbling for their sword-hilts. There was a silence. All the men in the cave stopped talking and looked towards them in wonder. But Faramir sat down again in his chair and began to laugh quietly, and then suddenly became grave again.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">"Alas for Boromir! It was too sore a trial!" he said. "How you have increased my sorrow, you two strange wanderers from a far country, bearing the peril of Men! But you are less judges of Men than I of Halflings. We are truth-speakers, we men of Gondor. We boast seldom, and then perform, or die in the attempt. Not if I found it on the highway would I take it I said. Even if I were such a man as to desire this thing, and even though I knew not clearly what this thing was when I spoke, still I should take those words as a vow, and be held by them.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">"But I am not such a man. Or I am wise enough to know that there are some perils from which a man must flee. Sit at peace! And be comforted, Samwise. If you seem to have stumbled, think that it was fated to be so. Your heart is shrewd as well as faithful, and saw clearer than your eyes. For strange though it may seem, it was safe to declare this to me. It may even help the master that you love. It shall turn to his good, if it is in my power. So be comforted. But do not even name this thing again aloud. Once is enough."</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">And then there is a confrontation between Faramir and Denethor, with Gandalf and Pippin present, in <i>The Return of the King</i>. You can see Faramir longing for his father's approval for a change, and you can see Denethor angry, furious, spiteful. "To use this thing is perilous. At this hour, to send it in the hands of a witless halfling into the land of the Enemy himself, as you have done, and this son of mine, that is madness."</span><br />
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:sigh: And what does the movie do? It shows Faramir take Frodo and Sam by force, taking them and the Ring to Gondor, as his father would have wanted. Then he suddenly, inexplicably changes his mind. I don't remember what they tried to portray as his motivation; I remember I found it singularly unconvincing.<br />
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</div><div>The only explanation I ever heard was that they wanted to show the "drama" of Faramir's decision. Show how "torn" he was.</div><div><br />
</div><div>How could you possibly not think it's dramatic if you have Faramir stand and proclaim the choice before him, explaining why they're in his power, what he could do? Show him there, hand on sword, maybe with quick flashes - movies can do that so well - of him leading armies, winning glory, destroying the armies of Mordor, driving them back from Gondor? Perhaps show his disapproving father who had only loved Boromir cheering him? How could you not think it dramatic to have him point out with a strange smile that now he could easily take what his brother tried to take? To have Frodo and Sam stand and fumble desperately, hopelessly, for sword hilts?</div><div><br />
</div><div>Faramir is Boromir's foil. He is not Boromir. And thus Faramir becomes the mouthpiece of SEVERAL OF THE MOST IMPORTANT THEMES OF THE ENTIRE TRILOGY, ALL CONDENSED INTO A FEW SHORT PARAGRAPHS.</div><div><br />
</div><div>Faramir demonstrates that although Boromir's failure was understandable, he was *not* a mere victim of his circumstances. He was not a strong enough person. He was greatly physically strong, but he loved glory too much. </div><div><br />
</div><div>Faramir was a great man, a man with strength of will, a man able to lead valiantly in battle when all seemed lost, able to fight when he fully expected to die, and able to refuse the weapon that would bring him victory, life, and glory. </div><div><br />
</div><div>Faramir stepped aside for Aragorn gladly. Boromir might not have been able to.</div><div><br />
</div><div>Hollywood seems to have this notion that one must teeter on the brink of an evil decision in one's own heart before it is a dramatic decision. That it's not impressive enough that Faramir let them go unless he is almost overmastered. That making the wrong decision temporarily is the only way for a dramatic redemption. That Faramir is just Boromir who manages to hold on to Frodo long enough that he repents before Frodo runs away instead of a little after.</div><div><br />
</div><div>Thus they ruin, they stomp upon, they mutilate, the story of Faramir. The story of a man with such a noble soul that not for a moment would he be truly tempted by such a prize, laid on the table before him.</div><div><br />
</div><div>We already saw Boromir, the brave man, yes, the good man, who was corrupted by a prize beyond him. Alas for Boromir! It was too sore a trial. And we saw him repent in tears and give his life for Merry and Pippin.</div><div><br />
</div><div>We don't need to see Boromir again in the land of Ithilien. No, we want Faramir. We want to know that though the Ring is too much, though placing it within a man's grasp is too much to bear, too sore, that there are those who could stand up to it. We want to know that it is possible, faced with power and glory and everything your heart has long desired - the approval of a father who always favored your brother, who never chose you - still it is possible to say, No, not if I found it on the highway would I take it.</div><div><br />
</div><div>They could have shown the temptation without showing Faramir succumbing to temptation. They could have, and they should have.</div><div><br />
</div><div><div>Faramir is the strongest sign of a problem which appears in other places in the movies too. Faramir's actions were changed; elsewhere, they limited it to words and attitudes.</div><div><br />
</div><div>Elrond is the clearest other example I'm thinking of. Elrond growing angry at Aragorn for taking his daughter away? No. He said he would not grant her to him for any less cause than bringing the kings of men back to Middle-Earth, but he said it not with anger, but with deep, deep sorrow. We wish to lash out angrily when people threaten what we hold dear... but Elrond would not. Except in the movie, where they will not allow for any characters which are too virtuous.</div><div><br />
</div><div>Ah yes, and Frodo growing angry at Sam and believing Gollum was another truly awful moment. Absurd. Horrific.</div><div><br />
</div><div>One of the reasons why Plato was not a fan of plays: because in the interests of entertainment, actors went out of their way to express disproportionate emotion: rage and grief and laughter all to degrees that would be shameful in a real person. Plato wanted to encourage moderation and restraint in the face of trouble.</div><div><br />
</div><div>What gets me is that movies have the power to show so much more subtleties than plays. They can use clever tricks to show thoughts, to heighten the drama, to do so much with the flicker of an actor's eyelids. They don't have to fall into that trap... but they do. So. Often.<br />
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And of course in this case, they made a lot of people very angry, not just me:</div><div><a href="http://www.irregularwebcomic.net/comic.php?current=10&theme=2&dir=prev">http://www.irregularwebcomic.net/comic.php?current=10&theme=2&dir=prev</a></div><div><br />
</div><div>I don't think it was smart, let alone justified. Really good heroes do... really well with fans... actually... Even if it were smart, though, it would not be justified. They took several major themes of the book, looked them in the eye, and said, "Naw. Why expose the audience to what actual virtue would look like? Let's give 'em some, ah, sort of well-meaning goodness instead. Just like last time with Boromir. Faramir is his brother. Clearly they should be alike."</div><div><br />
</div><div>And what really makes me find it unforgiveable: They made the movie longer to do so. With all that whining about how the books are too long to make into good movies (so be quiet, rabid fans!), *their worst change was one that made them insert another giant scene that was never in the book.*</div><div><br />
</div><div>You can take out Tom Bombadil if you must, but don't you dare replace him with the Abomination of False Faramir.</div><div><br />
</div><div></rant></div></div>Parmandilhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09619275808113334098noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5643872236652120132.post-4975839474449645012012-01-08T19:02:00.000-08:002012-01-08T19:11:55.088-08:00Calling<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; text-indent: 0in;">A year or so ago, I listened to <i>Gaudy Night </i>by Dorothy Sayers on audiobook while I was commuting to USC. Great book. That doesn’t even begin to cover it. It’s a mystery of sorts, and the action is intriguing and interesting… but oh, what she has to say about the human heart! Sayers was wise. She really makes me think… hard.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; text-indent: 0in;">It’s been long enough that I’m not sure I can really describe her argument accurately. So take it with a grain of salt. This may or may not be quite what she actually says. It is what I currently am thinking about in part because I kind of think she said it. What she actually said is more profound than this, I am sure, and more complete and nuanced and generally wonderful. Anyway, moving on.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; text-indent: 0in;">The main character of <i>Gaudy Night </i>is Harriet Vane, an Oxford-educated woman who writes mystery novels in a time when few women were college-educated. To the extent that that defines her, Harriet Vane is of course an autobiographical character – Dorothy Sayers was an Oxford-educated woman who wrote mystery novels. It becomes still more interesting because the plot takes place at a reunion of sorts – Harriet is back at Oxford, interacting with her old teachers and classmates, thinking about academic life and what it means.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; text-indent: 0in;">There are a lot of conversations in this book about calling, about your job. Some of those have to do with marriage. Harriet loves her mystery writing in a world where for plenty of women, their only job was marriage and family. Meanwhile, many people think it’s kind of ghoulish and strange for her to write mysteries because she herself had been falsely accused of murder and very nearly hanged for it. But she has to write mysteries, and she gets excited about it, and even though she sort of agrees with them mentally that it is a little ghoulish, at heart she doesn’t agree at all.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; text-indent: 0in;">In this context comes a deeply profound conversation about what your job is. By your job they mean something much more than what you do for a living, though it may well be what you do for a living if you are lucky. Miss Devine, one of the teachers, and Harriet are talking, and Miss Devine pretty clearly seems to be the voice of Sayers in the conversation. I don’t think I have the points in the order they were made, but among other points Miss Devine made in the conversation, she says, first, that when something is really your job, it doesn’t matter how people think you should feel about it, you just have to do it. Some people, she says, make a person their job. They give everything to that person, everything. She doesn’t despise them, she says, but she herself has a more intellectual job. Harriet asks how one is to know what is really your job. Miss Devine says one will know because when something is really your job, you don’t make mistakes, not about things that really matter. Little errors, but not big core mistakes. It matters too much to you. You pay attention, and you avoid mistakes. You take pains over your job. Harriet asks if taking pains over a thing may be the distinction that means it is your job; Miss Devine says just about, but she still doesn’t think it’s quite as much proof as not making mistakes; it’s easier to trick ourselves into thinking we take pains over a thing than to trick ourselves into thinking we really got it right. She also says at some point that we know what we want to do by what we do – regardless of what we try to talk ourselves into thinking we want to do. At some point Miss Devine mentions that she is very concerned about the pernicious effect it has on a person to be someone’s job. That when a wife or mother makes her husband or children her job, her be-all and end-all, it has a negative effect on the loved one’s character. Harriet says she thought Miss Devine said she didn’t despise those who make people their job. “I don’t despise them,” she responds. “Far from it! I think they are dangerous.”</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; text-indent: 0in;">If you’re interested in this topic, you should really read the book; there’s so much more thought here that I’m not capturing. Even the mystery plot contributes to this theme.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; text-indent: 0in;">Ever since then I’ve been thinking about it off and on on a personal level. What is it that I do no matter what anyone thinks, no matter what I myself think? What is it I can’t stand not to do perfectly? What is it I keep trying and trying to get absolutely right, no matter how difficult that is, no matter how much sleep I lose in the process?</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; text-indent: 0in;">The curious problem for me is, there’s more than one such thing. That’s why I had so much trouble picking a major. That’s why it is so difficult for me to settle on a career and stick with it. Not because I don’t have a career which I love and which is utterly my job. But because I’m neglecting my other jobs in the process.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; text-indent: 0in;">It’s the kind of problem you want to have, but it’s still a problem. There isn’t enough time in the day for three jobs… and I think I have at least three jobs, maybe four, depending on what you count. Things I cannot happily put aside for any length of time. Things I pursue earnestly, trying to do my best.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; text-indent: 0in;">I have hobbies, too. Jogging and puppetry and piano and knitting. Chores like cooking and cleaning. I love my hobbies… but they don’t get done that much. I don’t love the chores, but I do like the results… but they get done as hastily and with as few pains as I can get away with. Why? Because I have at least three jobs.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; text-indent: 0in;">The least of them is singing. Perhaps it’s not really a job at all, perhaps it’s just a glorified hobby. I don’t put in the time I need to get everything really right. I don’t take lessons anymore and haven’t for a long time. The force of the other two jobs crowds them out. I still sing and practice and try to do my best and cringe over little mistakes no one else seems to notice… but I’ve always known I was unlikely to be anything really special there. That I wasn’t going to be a professional, and that I might not even be capable of making my college choir. (Unfortunately, choir overlapped with required classes every year, so it is a moot point.) Still, I’ve joked so many times that if I didn’t sing I would shrivel up and die. And I do practice every day, in the oddest places and at the oddest times, anytime I can get away with it. I do warm-ups and drills and songs. I listen very critically to my own voice and repeat the same line a dozen times until I think I have it. I was happy, fiercely happy, when I was on choir tour or choir retreat or at Musicale, where my days were consumed by singing. It has been long, so long, since I could make serious time for it in the midst of everything else. It is only a third job. But if not for my first two jobs, it could happily be my job. If I loved all three the same amount and had thought singing the most, instead of the least, practical, the one where I had the most, instead of the least, natural talent… it might be my first job. But it is not. And I wish at times that I had a lifetime to dedicate to singing, but I do not.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; text-indent: 0in;">The second is writing. If I can broaden the category, it’s the entire conversation of great literature. Discussion, philosophy, thought, emotional life. Reading and writing both. Story. Thinking about anything and everything. When I’m not at work or enjoying time with friends, I’m normally doing something related to this broad category. The narrow category is not so universally dominant in my life, but it’s still key. I must write. I must write stories and I must write little essays like this one. Are there mistakes? Yes, oh yes. And for all the time and all the hundreds of thousands of words I have poured into it, I have never yet finished a story. I agonize, sometimes, over wishing I had the time to give my everything to writing, to see what I could do. Would I succeed if it were my top priority? I don’t know. I wish I had the chance to find out. I wish I could look at a book I had written and know it was right, know it was good, know it was well-crafted, as Harriet Vane could do in time.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; text-indent: 0in;">And the first, the one that I have begun my career working in, is logical problem-solving. I am a microprocessor design engineer; how much time I have spent, through the years, solving logic puzzles, playing with math, being logical as logical can be! I love math; everyone who knows me finds that out pretty quickly. All is right with the world when I can sit there working my puzzles, and I lose track of everything else. Is math a great thing and a beautiful thing? Yes. Is my enjoyment of it disproportionately high? Yes. There are other beautiful things; but math is my job. There are other worthwhile tasks, but I value the mind and the life of thought. I wish to see everyone appreciate it, to see no one dread it. I thrill to a well-written line of code. I try to understand thoroughly, to own the concepts I have heard once. I try to learn more, and so not only do I have my full-time job, I am taking classes towards my master’s degree, too, studying when I can. </div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; text-indent: 0in;">I am an unabashed mathematician, an engineer, a nerd. I am so happy to have my job, so happy to get to pour myself into something I love.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; text-indent: 0in;">But if I weren’t an engineer, I would be a writer, or try to be. I can hardly bear that I am not a writer if I do not stop and remind myself that I am an engineer.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; text-indent: 0in;">And if I weren’t either of those, I might try to be a singer.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; text-indent: 0in;">There isn’t enough time for all those things. Not really. But I try anyway. I can’t help it. Or rather, I suppose I sort of can help it… but it takes something mighty powerful to motivate me to the effort of not attempting to do math/engineering, write, and sing, and to do it right, really right, not one problem incorrect, not one sentence out of place, not one note sour.<br />
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I would like to add that I never begrudge the time I spend with my friends, my church, my God. That there is more to life than even jobs like these. That when a need is strong sometimes one's duty is to meet that need, regardless of whether it's what you want to do. That we need the self-discipline to sometimes overpower those desperate urges of the heart and say, no, I want to get this last calculus problem right, and I know my current answer is wrong, but it is time for me to clean up my room so my roommate won't be too distressed when she walks into the room. To say, I want to delegate this task which is terribly unsuited to me, but right now I'm the only one who can do it, and it must be done. To say, O God, here am I, send me; I give up my dreams. But there are also times, many times, when that is not necessary; when you serve the world best by doing your job.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; text-indent: 0in;">I don’t think my cooking is likely to improve much anytime soon.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; text-indent: 0in;">What is your job?</div>Parmandilhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09619275808113334098noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5643872236652120132.post-25308700741061499002011-12-13T23:08:00.001-08:002011-12-13T23:08:09.158-08:00I Love Portland.<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; text-indent: 0in;"><b>I Love Portland (and Hillsboro).<o:p></o:p></b></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; text-indent: 0in;">It’s true.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; text-indent: 0in;">Just a short journey to so many gorgeous, gorgeous hikes. A forest behind my apartment. Sparse city, and trees happily taking over any space left to them.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; text-indent: 0in;">No traffic.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; text-indent: 0in;">No smog.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; text-indent: 0in;">The drive to McMinnville is amazing. Wide-open fields with hills behind. The fields are so green they’re almost Dominican level, and the hills behind are faintly bluish. I find myself humming “Beautiful Fields” from <i>Last Exile</i> almost every time. Completely relaxing, what with so few people on the roads. Glorious. A place to be happy.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; text-indent: 0in;">My ideal terrain: hilly and forested.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; text-indent: 0in;">My favorite color palette: dark green and brown and, on foggy or icy days, white, and on clear days, light blue.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; text-indent: 0in;">Oh, the Willamette River. Cresting the river on those bridges and seeing the city of Portland there (and forest on the hills behind) is simply stunningly beautiful. I love it at night with the lights gleaming off the river. I love it in the daytime when the sun shines and the colors are spectacular. And I love it in the much more common cloudy days when the colors are deep and rich.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; text-indent: 0in;">I haven’t noticed any graffiti. I haven’t heard people yelling. I haven’t heard any gunshots. I haven’t been kept awake by helicopters circling overhead and policemen calling over the radio to “Come out with your hands up!” </div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; text-indent: 0in;">People walk and bike. I wouldn’t know there was any obesity epidemic in America from Portland.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; text-indent: 0in;">If you pass people on a hike or an everyday walk, most of the time you will exchange a greeting. You normally talk to the checker at the grocery store.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; text-indent: 0in;">Frost sparkling on evergreen trees and cars and all the rest is dreadfully incovenient, but so wonderful nonetheless. It reminds me of the part in <i>The Silmarillion</i> where Morgoth brought bitter cold and Manwë made snow out of it – the clear implication there that the world was even better afterward.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; text-indent: 0in;">With layers and help from REI, I even find myself thinking, as I walk out in the 30-some degree weather, that it’s a lovely brisk day and the air is wonderfully refreshing. Heh. If I let it, it can make me feel so alive. (That or like I need to curl into a ball and shiver or I will very soon stop being alive.)</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; text-indent: 0in;">The air is so fresh. It’s always like the day after a rain. Sweet, clear, clean.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; text-indent: 0in;">This would be a good place to grow up. I used to wish, as I stared out the window onto the dirty alley and the vacant field with its walls covered in graffiti, for a place where people didn’t have to be so suspicious of each other. For a place where kids could just go outside and play without their parents feeling anxious. For a place with little fear.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; text-indent: 0in;">This might not really be a place without grounds for fear, but at least it’s much closer to it. Everything about it feels freeing. Expansive. Friendly. Safe.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; text-indent: 0in;">It probably makes it feel even more free that I am spreading my own wings, of course. That I’m living on my own and making my own decisions.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; text-indent: 0in;">My new church is friendly and welcoming and full of kind, helpful people. English country dance class and hiking events and people who let me crash their houses and other miscellaneous adventures have made for a life that’s got just the right level of happy fullness. I can hardly believe how quickly I’ve made good friends.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; text-indent: 0in;">It’s a good place. I would not be sad to keep living here for the rest of my life. No, not sad at all. Wanderlust may come, but this makes a good home.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; text-indent: 0in;">I love Portland, my home.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; text-indent: 0in;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; text-indent: 0in;"><b>I Miss Los Angeles.<o:p></o:p></b></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; text-indent: 0in;">It’s true.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: 0in;"><i>I miss the warmth,<o:p></o:p></i></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: 0in;"><i>I miss the sun,<o:p></o:p></i></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: 0in;"><i>I miss the ocean,<o:p></o:p></i></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: 0in;"><i>I miss everyone.<o:p></o:p></i></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: 0in;"><i>Tonight<o:p></o:p></i></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: 0in;"><i>It seems like ages ago.<o:p></o:p></i></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: 0in;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; text-indent: 0in;">The bright, bright colors, so bright it literally hurts. I never wanted to wear sunglasses, though, even when the tears started flowing from my wounded eyes. I loved those bright colors too much.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; text-indent: 0in;">The clear, blue sky.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; text-indent: 0in;">Only one short-sleeved shirt and a wrap necessary, ever. And you can often dispense with the wrap.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; text-indent: 0in;">Hardly any rain, but when it comes, oh, the delightful, drenching downpour! How the world changes!</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; text-indent: 0in;">Seasons which I recognize instinctively.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; text-indent: 0in;">Jacaranda trees with their lavendar flowers and lacy leaves.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; text-indent: 0in;">Camphor trees spreading long graceful limbs over the streets.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; text-indent: 0in;">The swingset under the best of jacaranda trees, rickety and delightful.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; text-indent: 0in;">The smell of salt on the air and the cries of the gulls.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; text-indent: 0in;">Cheerful birdsong continuously. (And some not so cheerful. Crows and peacocks have really ugly cries.)</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; text-indent: 0in;">Hustle and bustle of people. You know that there is <i>life </i>around.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; text-indent: 0in;">Always comfortable to be outside. Only very rarely any seasonal reason not to plop outside with a good book. No need to think twice before running outside. No need to grab layers.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; text-indent: 0in;">So much art. So many concerts. So many plays. The Getty. The Hollywood Bowl. The Walt Disney Concert Hall. </div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; text-indent: 0in;">The beach.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; text-indent: 0in;">The church in which I grew up.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; text-indent: 0in;">Biola.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; text-indent: 0in;">The Dead Kitty Party. Torrey Music. The church choir’s extravaganza. </div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; text-indent: 0in;">The vast majority of my friends and family.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; text-indent: 0in;">I miss Los Angeles, my home.</div>Parmandilhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09619275808113334098noreply@blogger.com1